How to Avoid Disappointment

Disappointment occurs when our expectations are not met.  The obvious solution is to have NO expectations of others.  The only person over which any of us have any real control is ourselves.  Self-control is all any of us can ever hope for, but even that can be over-exercised.  Once upon a time Robert and I talked about Rumi the Sufi author of love poetry.  He wrote "...out beyond the idea of wrongdoing and rightdoing,  there is a field, I will meet you there..."  I thought it was lovely imagery, if somewhat obscure.    Rumi talked a lot about the losing of the ego, putting it away somewhere out of the way.  I initially thought that notion was ridiculous.  I believed that our egos make us who we are, but I was wrong.  It is the loss of ego that allows us to give our innermost selves to our loved one.  It enables us to open our hearts and minds to utterly selfless gifting of our spirits and souls to the beloved.  This is what makes our union, both spiritual and physical, transcendent and beautiful.  I ask no bride price, but I bring you a dowry.  It is all that I am and ever will be, all that I have and ever will have, all that is mine to give.....heart, mind, body, soul.  My commitment to you is for a lifetime and is not contingent upon your willingness or desire to make such a commitment to me.  The only thing I ask of you is that if and when you are ever ready, meet me in that field.