Sometimes we don't get close enough to ourselves to understand

I know what you are thinking.  How is that possible?  We live with ourselves intimately.  That is not true for a lot of us.  Many of us....and I mean many......do not want to examine carefully how we feel about some things....some of us don't want to even be in the same room with those things.  We invent really clever (or so we think) avoidance behaviors.  You know it is possible to ignore the most blatant symptoms of a heart attack by simply thinking about something else.  Yes, you can ignore yourself to death.

My favorite example of not getting close enough to yourself appears in The Runaway Bride.
It had to do with how the bride liked her eggs.  Each of her fiances liked their eggs differently: one scrambled, one fried, one poached, another an omelet.  When it was pointed out to the bride that she appeared to like her eggs the way the whoever she was engaged to liked them, she had to admit that she really did not know how she like them.  Near the end of the movie, she admits to the reporter that after fixing eggs every way she could think of, the only way she liked eggs was in Eggs Benedict.

The point is that in order to really know ourselves, we have to do the work.  It is about knowing how you feel and why you feel that way.